Why you crave some time alone & how to help other people understand.

When you don't know how to use your Personality, you struggle to make certain things work out - like relationships and career advancements. Often you second guess or question yourself, spending more time overthinking things, confused or worried, instead of feeling sure of yourself.

Yes, the tough part about Personality, is that you have your own unique set of tools, and with that, no one could ever really teach you how to use them properly to their fullest potential. Your parents, caregivers and role models had their own toolboxes and were trying to figure out how to use them to solve their issues and create their lives. So they weren't necessarily capable to show you how to use yours!

So what does it take for you to reach into that toolbox (called you) and pull out the right thing at the right time? How do you get to being skillful at living your life, your way? Let's solve this Personality enigma once and for all!

A SOLUTION FROM MY EXPERIENCE AS A NEUROBIOLOGY THERAPIST 

Back in the 1990's, when I first set up my Corporate Training business, I was using various mainstream behaviour and performance assessments to support company teams reach results. But for me, there was something vitally incomplete. As a human being you are so much more than 1 of 8 types! 

While studying to become a Neurobiology therapist specialised in unblocking Psychosomatic illnesses, I saw back in 2004 how Personality is programmed at conception and can be decoded. 

When a patient talked about their feelings, described their life experiences and even their day to day preferences, it became clear how to help them use their greater potential. I saw how Personality starts as Needs that you feel driven to express. Sometimes you use these Needs unconsciously and you even reach a goal and feel great. But then you aren't sure how to replicate it over again in different life situations! 

More often than not, because you aren't fully aware of all your Personality Needs, you feel stressed. With the Questioning Need you recharge your ability to reason by being alone and reflecting.

Watch the video above to hear the details of "what it's like" to have the Questioning Personality Need. And then read the excerpt from my Best Selling book "Modus Vivendi - Your Life Your Way" below to get a snapshot of how you feel, think and act. Remember, it's not just understanding the Personality Need, it is also knowing where it is in your Complete Personality.

If you already have your Personality Profile, then this video will help you really express more of your potential in the precise Facet of Personality in which you have the Questioning Need. 

ABOUT THE QUESTIONING NEED

If you have the Questioning Need in one of the 12 Facets of your Complete Personality, then here are some of your positive aspects. You love to advice, analyse and reflect. You are questioning, wise and calm.

It’s like you dream of sitting on top of a mountain all by yourself. It is important for you to sometimes be alone. Daily quiet time is essential. You are great at peacefully analyzing situations, pondering problems and coming up with wise solutions. You need a place to have silence and thinking time. If you don’t, you might create drama and make a mountain out of a molehill.

You might have noticed that ever since you were a child people came to you for advice. You have the energy of a grandparent who has gained maturity from lots of life experiences and shares them calmly with others. Maybe you love being in the role of a counselor, mentor or therapist. You are naturally patient. Try to be less doubtful.