Know you're a born leader but people call you bossy? Here's why!

When you don't know how to use your Personality, you struggle to make certain things work out - like relationships and career advancements. Often you second guess or question yourself, spending more time overthinking things, confused or worried, instead of feeling sure of yourself. 

Yes, the tough part about Personality, is that you have your own unique set of tools, and with that, no one could ever really teach you how to use them properly to their fullest potential. Your parents, caregivers and role models had their own toolboxes and were trying to figure out how to use them to solve their issues and create their lives. So they weren't necessarily capable to show you how to use yours!

So what does it take for you to reach into that toolbox (called you) and pull out the right thing at the right time? How do you get to being skillful at living your life, your way? Let's solve this Personality enigma once and for all!

A SOLUTION FROM MY EXPERIENCE AS A NEUROBIOLOGY THERAPIST 

Back in the 1990's, when I first set up my Corporate Training business, I was using various mainstream behaviour and performance assessments to support company teams reach results. But for me, there was something vitally incomplete. As a human being you are so much more than 1 of 8 types! 

While studying to become a Neurobiology therapist specialised in unblocking Psychosomatic illnesses, I saw back in 2004 how Personality is programmed at conception and can be decoded. 

When a patient talked about their feelings, described their life experiences and even their day to day preferences, it became clear how to help them use their greater potential. I saw how Personality starts as Needs that you feel driven to express. Sometimes you use these Needs unconsciously and you even reach a goal and feel great. But then you aren't sure how to replicate it over again in different life situations! 

Watch the video above to hear the details of "what it's like" to have the Established Personality Need. And then read the excerpt from my Best Selling book "Modus Vivendi - Your Life Your Way" below to get a snapshot of how you feel, think and act. Remember, it's not just understanding the Personality Need, it is also knowing where it is in your Complete Personality.

If you already have your Personality Profile, then this video will help you really express more of your potential in the precise Facet of Personality in which you have the Established Need. 

ABOUT THE ESTABLISHED NEED

If you have the Established Need in one of the 12 Facets of your Complete Personality, then here are some of your positive aspects. You love to lead, delegate and own. You are established, dominant and determined.

It’s like you are the king of the hill. You like to be important, be the authority and be the rule maker. Someone has to be the boss, why not you? Under an often staunch, confident and “it’s all about me” appearance, you really are a person who has the underdog in your best interest. You were born strong so you help the weak.

You need to feel secure and stable in order to be happy. You love to own your own things. Don’t let your possessions run your life. Sometimes you are asked to make hard choices so you need to be concentrated. Not always can you make everyone happy. You are brave but sometimes too dominant and competitive. Give others space to grow.