When you often feel guilty even for little things & how to get over it easily.

When you don't know how to use your Personality, you struggle to make certain things work out - like relationships and career advancements. Often you second guess or question yourself, spending more time overthinking things, confused or worried, instead of feeling sure of yourself. 

Yes, the tough part about Personality, is that you have your own unique set of tools, and with that, no one could ever really teach you how to use them properly to their fullest potential. Your parents, caregivers and role models had their own toolboxes and were trying to figure out how to use them to solve their issues and create their lives. So they weren't necessarily capable to show you how to use yours!

So what does it take for you to reach into that toolbox (called you) and pull out the right thing at the right time? How do you get to being skillful at living your life, your way? Let's solve this Personality enigma once and for all!

A SOLUTION FROM MY EXPERIENCE AS A NEUROBIOLOGY THERAPIST 

Back in the 1990's, when I first set up my Corporate Training business, I was using various mainstream behaviour and performance assessments to support company teams reach results. But for me, there was something vitally incomplete. As a human being you are so much more than 1 of 8 types! 

While studying to become a Neurobiology therapist specialised in unblocking Psychosomatic illnesses, I saw back in 2004 how Personality is programmed at conception and can be decoded. 

When a patient talked about their feelings, described their life experiences and even their day to day preferences, it became clear how to help them use their greater potential. I saw how Personality starts as Needs that you feel driven to express. Sometimes you use these Needs unconsciously and you even reach a goal and feel great. But then you aren't sure how to replicate it over again in different life situations! 

More often than not, because you aren't fully aware of all your Personality Needs, you feel stressed. With the Balanced Need you easily feel guilty or get defensive, yet you are also capable of knowing right from wrong.

Watch the video above to hear the details of "what it's like" to have the Balanced Personality Need. And then read the excerpt from my Best Selling book "Modus Vivendi - Your Life Your Way" below to get a snapshot of how you feel, think and act. Remember, it's not just understanding the Personality Need, it is also knowing where it is in your Complete Personality.

If you already have your Personality Profile, then this video will help you really express more of your potential in the precise Facet of Personality in which you have the Balanced Need. 

ABOUT THE BALANCED NEED

If you have the Balanced Need in one of the 12 Facets of your Complete Personality, then here are some of your positive aspects. You love to decide, honor and judge. You are balanced, respectful and dutiful.

It’s like walking a tightrope (or a modern slackline) and trying to balance opposites. Going off too much on either side is wrong, just as staying perfectly still in the middle is wrong too. You find more equilibrium in a slight sway back and forth that considers a little bit of both left and right. You notice things in the outside world that are right and wrong. You feel right and justify your decisions. You don’t want to lose other people’s respect nor be criticized for taking a wrong step. That would not be fair. You use cutting comments if anyone dares to shame or blame you.

You feel best when you are being flexible, yet precise and decisive. You are honest, upright and dignified. This balancing act makes you strive for perfection but sometimes you are too severe with yourself and even too harsh with others. When you feel everything is perfect, even the mistakes, you become soft hearted and light.